Singles, don’t limit God

While at church service one Sunday morning, a young single, believing man walked in and sat to himself to the notice of several single women. As church service went on, the pastor told everyone to sit with someone they didn’t know so they could read the scriptures together. This was a good way to get people to mingle with others and to not only sit by those they already knew. Several of those single women wanted to go over and sit next to the single man but were uncomfortable with approaching him. But one single woman didn’t let that stop her. She walked over to sit with the young man, introduced herself and read the scriptures with him. It was a move that would change her life forever. Because of her act of faith to show herself friendly and sit with the young man, they began a courtship soon after and married six months later. Though they have had many trials as do all believing married couples, they have been married over 22 years and are more in love today than they were before. This couple is one of our mentors in our marriage and over the last almost four years, the wife along with another older wife in the Lord has helped me to become the wife and mother I am today based off Titus 2. So what’s the point of this story?

Single ladies, just because the scriptures do not say “She who finds..” does not mean you can’t introduce yourself, be friendly with or put yourself in position to meet the Godly man you may marry.

Single men, just because the scripture does say “He who finds…” does not mean you can’t be helped in finding the right woman for you.

One thing believing singles should do is to stop limiting the many different ways they could meet their potential mate. Yes there will be seasons of waiting, “ACTIVELY WAITING” in these seasons which means to be active (mingling with other single believers) while you wait to see who is the right one for you, but let’s stop with the “I’m waiting for God to bring me my mate by faith so I’ll just pray, believe and that’s it”.
Remember God requires works with our faith. There are times where all you can do is have faith, be still and know, but there are also times where you must put works with your faith and operate in that. What if the lady in the post never got up to meet the young man? What if another woman did? See too many would say, “Well if it’s meant to be, he would have went up to her”. And that’s where so many will miss exactly who God is and what He is capable of doing in their lives when it comes to meeting a Godly mate. Let me share another story with you to show what I mean.

A man was trapped in his house during a flood. He began praying to God to rescue him. He had a vision in his head of God’s hand reaching down from heaven and lifting him to safety. The water started to rise in his house. His neighbor urged him to leave and offered him a ride to safety. The man yelled back, “I am waiting for God to save me.” The neighbor drove off in his pick-up truck. The man continued to pray and hold on to his vision. As the water began rising in his house, he had to climb up to the roof. A boat came by with some people heading for safe ground. They yelled at the man to grab a rope they were ready to throw and take him to safety. He told them that he was waiting for God to save him. They shook their heads and moved on. The man continued to pray, believing with all his heart that he would be saved by God. The flood waters continued to rise. A helicopter flew by and a voice came over a loudspeaker offering to lower a ladder and take him off the roof. The man waved the helicopter away, shouting back that he was waiting for God to save him. The helicopter left. The flooding water came over the roof and caught him up and swept him away. He drowned. When he reached heaven and asked, “God, why did you not save me? I believed in you with all my heart. Why did you let me drown?” God replied, “I sent you a pick-up truck, a boat and a helicopter and you refused all of them. What else could I possibly do for you”? Point?

Stop limiting God on how He chooses to connect His children. In the example above, the man had a vision of how he believed God would save him but God sent him several people to save him yet he refused every last one of them because he had a vision of the way he believed God would specifically save him. Could this be you but in believing how God will send your mate in a certain way? You may have one vision in mind but God may have so many other ways just for you.
God sent one of his sons to fellowship at a church over 22 years ago. A believing single woman wanted a man of God as her husband and decided to activate her faith with works by simply sitting next to him in service, introducing herself and reading the scriptures with him. She didn’t know if anything would come of it, but because she had no warning from the Holy Spirit to not go and sit with him, she went and the rest is a beautiful history where for over 22 years, they have been in love, in marriage God’s way, while raising 5 children together! God Connections will not all look or be the same; they will happen differently. So don’t limit God with YOUR vision or dream on how you want to connect with your potential mate when He may want to connect you in a different way.

From this day forward, all singles who truly desire a Godly mate, who are ready to be in Godly marital covenant, who have been praying, believing and waiting on their God Connection, please stop trying to dictate to God on “how” He should send you your mate. Be led by His Spirit and be open to the endless possibilities on how God Connections can come about. God Connections are the best connections there are but remember they will not always look the same.

If God is not saying no, then GO while being led by the Spirit! He will not lead you astray! Ask for what you want in meeting your mate but be open to what God may want to do in your life. Don’t Limit God! Be Encouraged!

Prov 3:5-6 (CEV), “With all your heart you must trust the Lord and not your own judgment. Always let Him lead you, and He will clear the road for you to follow”.

Prov 3:6 (NLT), “Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take”.