Most people want to truly understand
love. In the Bible, God paints a very clear picture that helps us to
understand if we really are in love. One of the greatest love stories
that we find in the Bible is the Song of Solomon. It is also known as
the Song of Songs. This is a story that helps us to better understand
how to build Godly relationships. This article is full of great tips
that will help you to build a Godly relationship before marriage.
1.) Physical Restraint–
While we are attracted to our partners, God asks us to practice
physical restraint until marriage. If you practice physical restraint in
relationship by saving intimate moments for marriage (Even holding
hands and sitting too close with each other can lead to intimate
relationships – AVOID IT – cannot stress enough of how important this
matter is!), -Hebrews13:4-“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and
let the marriage bed be pure, for God will judge the sexually immoral
and adulterous.” While practicality does not determine right from wrong,
if the Bible’s message on sex before marriage were obeyed, there would
be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases, far fewer abortions, far
fewer unwed mothers and unwanted pregnancies, and far fewer children
growing up without both parents in their lives. Abstinence is God’s only
policy when it comes to sex before marriage. Abstinence saves lives,
protects babies, gives sexual relations the proper value, and, most
importantly, honors God. Then you will not only have a healthy
relationship with God, but with your partner as well.
2.) Maintain Your Character–
Be who you are when you are with your future spouse. Don’t try to be
someone you’re not. It is important that both you and your future spouse
show your true colors before marriage. This way there will be NO
SURPRISES once you are married! Be happy and attain the fruit of the
spirit in your personal life! – 1 Timothy 6:6 – “But godliness with
contentment is great gain.” & Galatians 5:22-23 – ” But the fruit of
the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is
no law.”
3.) Get Opinions From Others–
We may not always want to hear what others want to say, but it is
important that we LISTEN to their opinion. Listen to what the one you
love have to say.
4.) Allow the Man to take the Lead–
God asks men to lead in a relationship;however that doesn’t mean that a
woman should not have an opinion. Make sure that you are both in this
together for the RIGHT REASONS!
Ephesians 5:21-25 – “Submit to one
another out of reverence for Christ.Wives, submit yourselves to your own
husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife
as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the
Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit
to their husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives, just as
Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
5.) Praise Each Other–
Find reasons every day to give each other praise. This will help you to
BUILD LOVE & SECURITY in your relationship. Tell your future spouse
the things that you love about him or her and be there for them during
happy times as well as tough times. –
1 Thessalonian 5:11 – “So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing.”
6.) Become One in Spirit–
Make sure that both you and your partner are in the same place
spiritually. (As nice as it may be for two people to live together
meeting each other’s needs, GOD HAS A HIGHER CALLING FOR THE MARRIAGE.
Even as they were to be serving Christ with their lives before marriage
Romans 12:1-2 – “Therefore, I urge
you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies
as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and
proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test
and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”,
now they are to serve Christ together as a unit and raise their children
to serve God
(Bible-based) Pre marital counseling
is a great way to build a relationship with God and with your future
spouse. Ask the pastor at your church for more information about
premarital counseling. You could also ask the minister that will be
performing your ceremony. Using (Bible-based) premarital counseling is a
great way to get to know each other better. You may find out some
things about your potential spouse that you don’t like. Now is the time
to address these issues. Not after you have already gotten married.
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